Exploring your own body is an important and empowering experience, especially if you’re new to self-pleasure. If you’re a virgin, you might feel a mix of curiosity, excitement, and maybe even a little nervousness about starting this journey. That’s completely normal! Fingering yourself can be a wonderful way to discover what feels good, build comfort with your body, and develop a deeper understanding of your sexual preferences.
In this guide, we’ll walk you through each step with clear instructions and helpful GIFs to make the process easy and enjoyable. We’ll cover everything from preparing yourself mentally and physically to techniques that prioritize comfort and pleasure. Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to explore your own body—it’s all about finding what works best for you.
So, take a deep breath, relax, and let’s get started on this intimate and empowering experience!
Why Finger Yourself as a Virgin
Some of you may have experienced the pleasure of rubbing your clit and want to go further, while others may wish to explore themselves before engaging in partnered sex.
Fingering yourself can help you understand what feels good, build your sexual confidence, and make your first sexual experience with a partner more comfortable and enjoyable. Plus, it’s a great way to connect with your body in a safe and private environment.
Before You Start
Remove the nails and wash your hands
Keeping your nails trimmed and your hands clean is essential for comfort and hygiene. This helps avoid accidental scratches or irritation. If you have long nails that are difficult to trim, consider using gloves or finger cots to protect sensitive areas.
Get some lube
Using lube can make the experience smoother and more comfortable. If you don’t have lube, just take your time and let your body naturally produce its own moisture. Water-based lubes are highly recommended for beginners as they are gentle and easy to clean.
Relax
Being calm and relaxed is key to a pleasurable experience. Try deep breathing, a warm shower, or soft music to help you unwind. Masturbating under stress or pressure may hinder your ability to enjoy the process fully. Creating a comfortable and private space can enhance relaxation and increase pleasure.
Notice: every girl is different
Every body responds differently. Some may find pleasure easily through rubbing or fingering, while others may need to explore various techniques to discover what feels best. Be patient with yourself and focus on what brings you comfort and enjoyment. If something doesn’t feel pleasurable right away, don’t be discouraged; experimentation is key.
Steps to Finger Yourself
Warning: it may hurt you
Because you are a virgin, you must go through all actions gently and stop if you feel any discomfort. Pain is a signal to slow down, adjust your technique, or apply more lube. Always listen to your body.
Step 1: Get aroused
You can close your eyes, think about the man you want to have fun with, and touch your entire body. Watching some porn can also help if that feels right for you. Engaging in sensual activities like reading erotic content or using fantasy can also help stimulate arousal.
Step 2: Gently touch the genital with pants on
This helps you relax completely and get familiar with your fingers. Gentle stroking over your pants creates a sense of security and comfort, gradually building pleasure before direct contact.
Step 3: Slowly rub your clit
Take off your pants and rub your clit gently. Start with slow circular motions or soft tapping. If this step provides enough pleasure, you can stop here. Sometimes your vulva may contract slightly, which is normal. Experiment with different speeds, pressures, and motions to discover what excites you most.
Step 4: Open the labia
After rubbing your clit for a while, use two fingers to open your labia slightly to create enough space. Since your vagina is tight, don’t insert your finger too quickly; instead, gently touch the inner surface. Normally, you should be fully aroused and wet at this stage. Pay attention to how your body responds and proceed only if you’re comfortable.
Step 5: Slide your middle finger in
Once your body is ready, your vagina may naturally “suck” your finger in. Slowly slide your middle finger inside and move it in a ‘come hither’ motion. For safety reasons, avoid inserting your second knuckle unless you feel fully relaxed and comfortable. Take your time and adjust the depth and motion based on your body’s response.
Step 6: Add more angle/strength
If you don’t feel much excitement, try adding more pressure or squeezing your clit with the middle part of your finger. Experiment with rotating your hand, adjusting the angle, or gently stroking the vaginal walls to heighten sensations.
And you can use two fingers:
(Optional) Step 7: Finish up
After the climax, close your labia with two fingers and add more gentle rubbing to show your body some love and appreciation. This closing ritual can enhance relaxation and help you feel more connected to your body.
Useful Tips
Always be patient
Taking your time will help you enjoy the experience and avoid discomfort. Rushing may cause tension and make the process less enjoyable.
Avoid moving too fierce
Gentle, slow motions are key to finding what feels best and staying comfortable. Gradually increase intensity only when you’re sure your body is fully aroused and ready.
Try different positions, environments, angles, and tools
Exploring different settings can enhance your experience and comfort. Experiment with lying on your back, propping up your hips with pillows, or even trying in the shower for a new sensation.
Find a partner
A trusted partner can provide a more intimate environment and offer different angles and levels of strength. Clear communication about your boundaries and desires is essential for a positive experience.
Use a toy
A vibrator can save energy and offer more action modes for varied sensations. Beginners may prefer a small bullet vibrator or finger vibrator to complement manual stimulation.
FAQ
Will I lose my virginity if I finger myself?
No, fingering yourself does not necessarily mean you’ll lose your virginity. The concept of virginity is personal and cultural, and the hymen can stretch or tear for many reasons unrelated to sex.
How often shall I finger myself?
As often as you feel comfortable. Listen to your body and explore at your own pace. There’s no “right” frequency — the key is doing what feels good and natural for you.
What is the best finger position?
The ‘come hither’ motion with your middle finger is often the most effective for stimulating the G-spot and enhancing pleasure. Experiment with different angles to find the motion that suits you best.
How to finger yourself with nails
If you have long nails, be extra cautious. Use the pads of your fingers instead of the tips, and consider wearing finger cots or gloves for safety and comfort. Keeping your nails smooth and rounded will also help avoid irritation.
To Wrap Up
Exploring your body is a personal journey, and there’s no rush to master every technique at once. Take your time, enjoy the process, and focus on what feels good for you.
Whether you’re discovering new sensations or building intimacy with yourself, remember that self-exploration is a powerful way to connect with your body and embrace your sexuality.
