Anal masturbation for men might sound a bit taboo, but it’s actually a completely normal — and often mind-blowingly pleasurable — part of exploring your body. Many guys don’t realize that there’s a sensitive little spot inside called the prostate, often nicknamed the P-spot, which can trigger deep, toe-curling orgasms when stimulated the right way.
Still, for beginners, the idea of touching that area might feel awkward or even a little intimidating. That’s totally okay — curiosity and hesitation often go hand in hand when it comes to discovering new sexual sensations. The key is to learn how to do it safely, comfortably, and confidently.
In this guide, we’ll go step-by-step through everything you need to know: what anal masturbation is, why it’s perfectly normal (and even healthy), how to prepare, what to avoid, and the easiest beginner-friendly techniques to start with.
So if you’ve ever wondered what it feels like or how to find your P-spot without hurting yourself — relax, take your time, and let’s go through it together.
What is anal masturbate, is it normal for men?
Anal masturbation simply means stimulating the anus or prostate area for sexual pleasure, using fingers, toys, or other gentle methods. For men, the excitement often comes from the prostate gland, a small organ located a few centimeters inside the rectum. When it’s stimulated, it can trigger a unique, full-body kind of pleasure — sometimes even more powerful than a regular penile orgasm. That’s why people call it the P-spot (prostate spot).
Now, let’s clear up the big question: is it normal?
Absolutely. Anal play has been part of human sexuality for centuries, and modern research shows that many men are curious about exploring it — whether they’re straight, gay, or anywhere in between. It’s not about orientation; it’s about sensation. Your prostate is a natural part of your body, and there’s nothing “weird” or “unmanly” about discovering how it works.
When done safely and with proper hygiene, anal masturbation can become a healthy and satisfying way to learn more about your body’s pleasure zones. Plus, some men even report that it helps them last longer, feel more connected to their bodies, and experience new kinds of release.
So yeah — it’s perfectly normal, it’s totally okay, and it might just become your new favorite form of self-care.
Benefits of Anal Masturbation
More intense pleasure
One of the biggest reasons men explore anal masturbation is simple — the pleasure can feel way more intense than a regular orgasm. That’s because the prostate gland is packed with sensitive nerve endings. When gently stimulated, it creates deep, internal waves of pleasure that feel very different from the surface-level sensations of penis stimulation.
In fact, research supports this. A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that prostate stimulation can trigger orgasms that last longer and feel more satisfying compared to those from penile stimulation alone (Komisaruk et al., 2006). The reason lies in the body’s nerve pathways — the prostate connects to the same bundle of nerves responsible for orgasm, but it activates them from a deeper angle, creating that “whole-body” pleasure feeling many men describe.
Some guys even experience prostate-only orgasms, meaning they reach climax without touching their penis at all. It might sound surprising, but with patience and practice, this kind of orgasm is absolutely possible.
So, if you’ve ever thought there’s nothing new to discover about your own body — your P-spot might prove you wrong.
Overall sexual function improvement
Anal masturbation doesn’t just feel good — it can also help improve your overall sexual performance and body awareness. When men stimulate their prostate regularly (safely, of course), it encourages better blood flow to the pelvic area and strengthens the muscles around the prostate and anus. These muscles — part of the pelvic floor — play a key role in erection strength, ejaculation control, and orgasm intensity.
In other words, getting in touch with your P-spot can actually help you perform better and last longer in bed.
A clinical review published in The International Journal of Impotence Research highlighted that pelvic floor muscle exercises can significantly improve erectile function and orgasm quality in men (Dorey et al., 2005). Since anal play naturally engages and relaxes these same muscles, it can work as a kind of “pleasure-based pelvic workout.”
Plus, anal exploration often helps men become more mindful of their body’s sensations, reducing anxiety and tension during sex — which are two of the biggest causes of performance issues.
So beyond the immediate fun, this kind of self-play can boost long-term sexual confidence and control.
Reduce chance to get prostate cancer
Here’s an unexpected but fascinating benefit: anal masturbation might help lower the risk of prostate cancer.
It sounds surprising, but the idea comes from how the prostate works. The gland produces seminal fluid, and when it’s not regularly emptied, some researchers believe that old or stagnant fluid can build up and possibly increase inflammation or cellular stress. Regular ejaculation — whether through sex, masturbation, or prostate stimulation — helps “flush out” the prostate and keep it healthy.
In fact, a large-scale study published in European Urology found that men who ejaculated more frequently (about 21 times or more per month) had a significantly lower risk of developing prostate cancer compared to those who did so less often (Rider et al., 2016). While this study focused on ejaculation in general, it’s reasonable to say that prostate stimulation through anal play can contribute to the same kind of healthy activity.
In other words, keeping your prostate active isn’t just about pleasure — it might actually be good for your long-term health.
Things to Avoid
Before you start exploring anal masturbation, it’s super important to know what not to do. The anus is more sensitive than most people think, and a few common mistakes can quickly turn a fun experience into an uncomfortable one. Here’s what you should definitely avoid:
Soap
You can (and should!) wash your hands with soap before anything starts, but never use soap as a lubricant. Soap can dry out or irritate the delicate anal tissue, making it sting or even cause small tears. Instead, always go for a water-based or silicone-based lube — the slicker, the better. If you’re using a silicone toy, stick with water-based lube so you don’t damage it.
Not preparing
Jumping straight in without warming up is like doing splits without stretching first — not a great idea. Anal muscles need time to relax. If you don’t prepare, you might feel pain or cause tiny injuries. Take a few minutes to get yourself aroused, use plenty of lube, and maybe start by massaging the outside before going in.
Going too deep
The prostate is usually only 2–3 inches inside, so there’s no need to go digging for treasure. Going too deep can hurt or even cause harm if you’re not careful. Slow, shallow movements are way more effective — and honestly, that’s where the magic spot is anyway.
Not cleaning after finish
After you’re done, make sure to clean up properly. Wash your hands, toys, and the anal area with mild soap and warm water. If you used a toy, make sure it’s completely clean and dry before putting it away. Hygiene is key to avoiding infections or irritation.
Doing too often
Even though it feels good, your prostate and anal muscles need rest just like any other part of your body. Overdoing it might cause soreness, swelling, or even make your muscles too sensitive. A couple of times a week is fine — just listen to your body.
So yeah, anal play can be amazing — but only if you treat your body gently and keep things clean, slow, and safe.
Steps for Beginners
Now that you know the do’s and don’ts, let’s talk about how to actually do it. Anal masturbation doesn’t have to be complicated — it’s more about taking your time, relaxing, and learning what feels good for you. Here’s a simple beginner-friendly guide:
Cleaning
Before anything goes near your backdoor, cleanliness is key. You don’t need a full-on enema for basic play — just make sure the outside is clean with warm water and mild soap. Go to the bathroom first if you need to, and maybe wait 20–30 minutes before starting.
Some beginners prefer to use a small anal douche with warm (not hot!) water to rinse just inside, but it’s totally optional. The main goal is just to feel fresh and confident, not perfectly sterile.
And don’t forget your hands — trimmed nails and clean fingers are your best friends here.
Arousing
Anal play works so much better when you’re already turned on. Take your time to get aroused — maybe watch something sexy, touch yourself, or just focus on breathing and relaxing. The more turned on you are, the more naturally your muscles will relax.
Tension is the number-one pleasure killer here, so think of it like a warm-up: this is your chance to build excitement and help your body open up.
Lubricating
Here’s the golden rule: lube is not optional. The anus doesn’t produce its own natural lubrication like the vagina does, so you’ll need a generous amount of lube to keep things smooth and safe.
Start by applying lube to your finger (or toy) and the anal opening. Don’t be shy — too much is better than too little. Reapply anytime it starts to feel sticky or dry.
Fingering
Start slow. Gently rub the outside of your anus first — this helps the muscles relax and get used to the sensation. Once it feels comfortable, you can start to slide a well-lubed fingertip inside, just a little at first.
When you feel relaxed enough, move your finger slowly in and out, or make a gentle “come here” motion toward your belly button — that’s the direction of your prostate. You might feel a small bump or firm spot about 2–3 inches in — that’s the sweet P-spot.
And yes, you can totally use both hands — one for fingering and one for stroking your penis. It’s all about experimenting and finding the rhythm that feels best for you.
(Optional) Use tool
Once you’re comfortable with fingers, you might want to try a small anal toy designed for beginners — like a slim plug or prostate massager. Always go for something with a flared base (so it doesn’t slip inside completely), and use plenty of lube.
Start slow, experiment with different shapes, and see how your body responds. Some toys vibrate or curve perfectly toward the prostate, making it easier to find and stimulate.
Finishing
When you’re close to finishing, you can either keep focusing on your prostate or combine it with regular penile stimulation — whichever feels more natural. Many men report that the orgasm feels deeper, longer, and more full-bodied when it comes from the prostate.
Afterward, take a few minutes to relax and enjoy the post-orgasm glow. Clean up gently with warm water and mild soap, then maybe just chill — it’s totally normal to feel extra relaxed afterward.
FAQs
Can I have multiple orgasms from anal masturbation?
Yes, absolutely! The prostate can produce multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms, especially once you get used to how it feels. Unlike regular orgasms that usually end with ejaculation, prostate orgasms can come in waves — and sometimes you can have more than one without losing your erection. It takes some practice and patience, but it’s totally possible.
Does male anal masturbation hurt?
It shouldn’t. If it hurts, that’s your body telling you to slow down, use more lube, or relax more. Pain usually comes from tension, dryness, or rushing. The key is to take it slow and never force anything. When done right, it should feel warm, tingly, and eventually deeply pleasurable.
Where is the P-spot?
The P-spot (prostate) is located about 2–3 inches inside the anus, facing toward your belly button. You can find it by inserting a lubricated finger and making a gentle “come here” motion. It might feel like a small, firm bump — that’s your target!
What is the best position for beginners?
Everyone’s different, but some of the easiest starter positions include:
- Lying on your back with knees slightly bent (great for comfort and control)
- On your side with knees pulled toward your chest (relaxes your anal muscles)
- In the shower or standing bent over slightly (good if you want to clean up easily afterward)
Try a few and see which one helps you relax most — comfort is everything here.
Is it safe for teens to do anal masturbation?
If you’re old enough to explore your body and do so safely and privately, it’s not dangerous physically — but it’s important to understand proper hygiene, use lube, and avoid anything that could hurt you. For younger people, it’s better to wait until you feel mature enough to handle it responsibly and understand consent, safety, and your own comfort level.
Can I ask my partner to do that for me?
Totally! Many men enjoy letting their partners join in. The key is clear communication — let your partner know what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you’re curious to try. Start slow, use lots of lube, and maybe begin with external touch before any penetration. Sharing this kind of experience can actually build trust and intimacy between you two.
To Wrap Up
Anal masturbation might sound like a wild idea at first, but once you understand how it works — and how to do it safely — it’s really just another way of discovering your body’s full potential. The prostate is a powerful pleasure zone that most men never explore, but those who do often describe it as a whole new level of orgasm.
If you’re just starting out, take it slow. Focus on relaxation, cleanliness, and lots (and lots) of lube. Avoid rushing, and don’t be afraid to experiment — whether that’s using your fingers, a beginner-friendly toy, or just learning what kind of sensations feel best for you.
Remember, pleasure doesn’t have to follow one rulebook. Exploring anal stimulation doesn’t say anything about your orientation — it’s simply about knowing and enjoying your own body in a healthy, safe way.
So, go at your own pace, have fun with it, and who knows — your P-spot might just become your new favorite destination for self-care.
References
- Dorey, G., Speakman, M. J., Feneley, R. C., Swinkels, A., Dunn, C. D., & Ewings, P. (2005). Pelvic floor exercises for erectile dysfunction. International Journal of Impotence Research, 17(1), 10–13. https://doi.org/10.1038/sj.ijir.3901258
- Komisaruk, B. R., Beyer-Flores, C., & Whipple, B. (2006). The science of orgasm. Baltimore, MD: Johns Hopkins University Press.
- Rider, J. R., Wilson, K. M., Sinnott, J. A., Kelly, R. S., Mucci, L. A., & Giovannucci, E. L. (2016). Ejaculation frequency and risk of prostate cancer: Updated results with an additional decade of follow-up. European Urology, 70(6), 974–982. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.eururo.2016.03.027
